Condition:
[A woman writes]: I have a very great illness over which I am disturbed and which I would like to put to an end. I had seen a boy about three to four years ago. I never spoke to him nor met him. I did not see him again ever since that day. But I constantly think about him. On account of this, there is no concentration in my studies, salâh, dhikr, etc. I do not want to keep anyone apart from Allâh Ta'ala in my heart. I am also greatly disturbed by fantasies and whisperings.
Answer
Do not think of him knowingly. Whether in privacy or in public, think to yourself: who bestowed him with this beauty and handsomeness? If this heart is affected by this fleeting beauty and false love, then what can be said of Allâh Ta'ala, the source of all beauty, who gave this [person] an iota of beauty? The beauty of this person is fleeting, while the beauty of the Creator of beauty is eternal. Therefore, your heart ought to be attached to that eternal Being. This body that is going to die and decompose is not worthy of attachment. The appearance of this body will get worse with the passage of time [as the person gets older] and then you will not even want to look at him. On the other hand, Allâh Ta'ala has a different status at every time, and His beauty is eternal. It is for this reason that when the people will see Allâh Ta'ala in Paradise, they will forget about all the damsels of Paradise and all its other bounties. Read my article on false love one time daily.