The Rights of the Husband
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The second action in order to attain the friendship of Allah Ta'ala for women is to fulfil the rights of the husband. Through the blessings of this action an incredible amount of closeness to Allah Ta'ala will be attained.
Allah Ta'ala has granted the husband certain rights which must be fulfilled and has bestowed him superiority. He has made the husband an authority over the wife. This is why pleasing the husband is considered a great act of worship and displeasing him is regarded to be a grave sin. Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) has said:
"That woman who performs her 5-times Salah, observes the fast of the month of Ramadhan, stays with chastity and obeys her husband, then she has a choice to enter Jannah through any of the eight gates of Jannah which she desires." (Narrated by Abu Nu'aim in Hiyah, Mishkaat; pg.281)
In another Hadith narrated by Tirmizi, Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam)says:
"That woman who leaves this world in such a state in which her husband is pleased with her will enter Jannah."
In another Hadith also narrated by Tirmizi,
Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) says: "If Allah Ta'ala were to command the creation to prostrate to anything besides Him, then He would have commanded the woman to prostrate to her husband."
TRANSLATOR'S NOTE: This Hadith Shareef clearly emphasizes how important it is to obey and please the husband, it does not mean the woman should literally prostrate to the husband.
In another Hadith Shareef narrated by Tirmizi, Rasulullah(sallallahu alayhi wasallam) says: "If a man calls his wife to fulfil his sexual desires, then she should not delay. Even if she is called at the time when she is cooking on the stove."
In another Hadith Shareef narrated by Bukhari and Muslim, Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: "The woman who does not come to lay with her husband when he calls her, the angels send curses upon her till morning."
NOTE: If the woman has a valid Shar'i excuse or sickness. i.e. she is in her menstral period.
or she has flu etc, then this is a valid reason for her not to come to her husband when he calls her for sexual intercourse,
Rasulullah mentions in another Hadith Shareef narrated by Tirmizi and Ibn Majah: "That woman who displeases her husband in this world then the women of Jannah (which have been promised for those pious Muslim men who will enter Jannah) say: "May you be destroyed! do not trouble him for he is but with you for a couple of days and he will be coming to us soon!"
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam mentions in another Hadith Shareef
"There are 3 types of people whose Salah is not accepted nor any of their good deeds. One of them is that woman whose husband is displeased with her." (Musannaf Ibn Abi Shaibah; Vol. 1, pg. 358)
In other narration it is mentioned that a person asked Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) as to who is the most virtuous and pious of all women. Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) replied:
"That woman who when her husband looks at her he becomes happy and when he says something to her she listens and obeys, and she protects her chastity and she does not squander her husband's wealth."
The husband also possesses this right that she should not perform any NAFL IBADAT (voluntary worship) except with his permission. She should not perform any NAFL fasts nor NAFI SALAH,
He also possesses the right that the wife should not remain untidy, dirty or unattractive in front of him. Rather she should try her best to make herself attractive to him in such a way by which he becomes pleased.
Another right which the husband has over the wife is that without his permission she should not leave the house, whether it is to her relatives or to strangers.