Parents
Submitted by Mohammed Gilani on
Condition: I have the illness of getting angry. This causes
me to speak in harsh terms to my parents.
Answer: When you become angry, think to yourself that Allâh
Ta’ala ordered in the Qur’ân that one should not even say
“uff” to one’s parents, and that the Hadîth states that causing
displeasure to one’s father entails causing displeasure to Allâh
Ta’ala, and pleasing one’s father entails pleasing Allâh Ta’ala.
Condition: In this anger of mine, I say disrespectful
things to them and this causes me regret as well. I am in the
habit of fighting over trivial matters.
Answer: If you say anything disrespectful to them, hold their
feet and ask for forgiveness. If after that you show any
disrespect to them, take their sandals or shoes and place the
clean side on your head for five minutes. May Allâh Ta’ala give
you salvation from this dangerous illness.
Condition: I want to become dutiful and obedient to my
parents, and to overlook those issues which are not in
agreement with my temperament.
Answer: Ponder over this: it is stated in a Hadîth that the
person who vexes his parents will not experience death until he
is punished in this world.
You are most wicked for becoming angry at your parents.” Give twenty five
rupees in charity to a madrasah for each time you are
disrespectful towards them.
Solutions to spiritual maladies - Hazrat Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saab (Rahimahullah)