Attending Wedding Functions Amidst Sin
Submitted by Mohammed Gilani on
Condition: Hadrat, I have one matter which I would like
to ask about. Previously I used to attend weddings without
observing any pardah. However, through your blessings, I
now completely abstain from attending weddings because of
the evils which are prevalent there.
Answer: Mâshâ Allâh. Congratulations. I am most pleased
Condition: Hadrat, my nephew is to be engaged. My
sister and nephew insist that I attend. They are saying to me
that I may remain in my pardah, no one will disturb me and
no one will take my photograph. It is only the groom’s
photograph which will be taken. Only a few men, i.e. my
brother-in-law and his uncle, will come to the ladies section.
Answer: It is not permissible to attend a gathering in which
Allâh Ta’ala is disobeyed.
Condition: Hadrat, I told them that I will attend one day
before and go away.
Answer: This is what you ought to do. Also give them more
gifts than others so that they may be pleased with you.
Condition: When I said this, my nephew said that I will
have to attend the function even if it is for a short while. And
I may remain in my pardah.
Answer: You may also lay down a condition saying: I will come
on condition that there will be no disobedience to Allâh Ta’ala,
such as taking photographs and intermingling of men and
women.
Condition: When I refused, my nephew said to my sister:
“You must also not attend any function of aunty.” Hadrat, my
brother-in-law is also saying many things which are causing
great pain to my heart.
Answer: Keep the pleasure of Allâh Ta’ala before you and do
not bother about anyone. A Hadîth states that the person who
does not bother about the creation in order to please Allâh
Ta’ala, then Allâh Ta’ala suffices that person. The person who
displeases Allâh Ta’ala for the pleasure of the creation, Allâh
Ta’ala hands him over to the creation (he then becomes a play
thing at the hands of the creation).
Condition: I have heard from our elders that it is
unlawful to attend such functions where sins are openly
committed.
Answer: This is not just a statement of the elders, it is the ruling
of the Sharî‘ah. It is harâm to attend such functions.
Condition: Hadrat, these people say that we are too strict
in Islam whereas Islam is not so strict.
Answer: Say to them: “There is also not so much ease in Islam
whereby a person displeases Allâh Ta’ala. You can have such
ease, we do not want such ease.”
Condition: They say: “We also have to move with the
world [i.e. with the times].”
Answer: Say to them: “You consider it necessary to move with
the world, we consider it necessary to move with Islam.”
Solutions to spiritual maladies - Hazrat Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saab (Rahimahullah)